Tuesday, March 31, 2009


I know that I have been away for awhile, but things really got to be overwhelming, working during the week and rushing to Murfreesboro on the weekends, or on the weekends we couldn't get away, we had twice as much work to do at home. It was worth it, to give Adam a little extra time with his father.

Frank Mabry died on Friday, March 27th, at 7:22 PM. He wanted to die in his own home and he did. I thought he might have more time and a better quality of life if he had gone to the hospital sooner or more often, but that wasn't my choice to make. Right up until the end he wanted to be independent--and he was.

I knew Frank for 29 years. Adam knew him all his life.
He will be greatly missed.

Monday, March 9, 2009

Catch Up

I am sorry that I have neglected this blog for so long. Between my own illness (cold/virus) and my ex-husband's serious illness, I barely have a minute to breathe. My son and I have made 2 trips to Murfreesboro to sit with Frank. During this last trip he seemed to be more active. He is bored with watching TV, but doesn't really have energy to go much of anywhere. He lives on the second floor of an apartment and the stairs alone are exhausting.

Hospice visits Frank a few times a week and he has friends who drop in on him from time to time. It is odd to look into the eyes of the man you have known most of your life, someone you once shared a home and family with and know that without a miracle, he will be gone from your life. I do have some unresolved feelings--for sure.

When I get a moment, I will be blogging on some of my observations.

Thanks again for your patients.